Hey Mom
My mom has been going to the hospital for the past couple of months. This is because her doctors have suspected that she has cancer. She has had tests and results, but until now no-one was sure.
Today though, that all changed...
And today is the start of a new phase of life for you.
I cannot imagine how you will get to sleep tonight, finally knowing the identity of the intruder that has gained access to the most precious of places.
I sit here in America, five hours behind all that is happening, and whilst I sit and write these lines I see you, lying awake, and worrying. Worrying what is left for you, what you can now accomplish, wondering whether you will ever again feel complete happiness, your mind free from the cloud that has come into view. Unsure as to how this will all play out.
Mom, I want you to be brave, I want you to face this battle with grit and determination, it could be a tough one, but I know you are up to it. I've seen the look when you aren't going to back down, and it works, so show this one the door, and give it a real hard kick on the way out.
I wish I could help you with the pain, we all wish we could eat some of it for you, but we can only stand and watch. But never, ever forget, you have always tried to do everything right for everyone that you love, and that counts.
I'm going to lie awake tonight too, you aren't alone.
February, 15th 2007Family & Friends 16 Comments
Comments
Comment # 2
April 18, 2007
Nice one, I’m sure Nanna appreciates it. shes still staying positive which is the most important thing and she remains as happy as ever.
Comment # 3
April 28, 2007
I have known Val for many years, before she met your father, thats along time.
I know that she is up to and for the fight make no mistake about that. I wish her all the luck in the world.
Jean
Comment # 4
April 29, 2007
Hello Adam.
A lovely thoughtful & sincere message for your Mom.With this to cherish,how can your mom not fail to overcome the traumatic ordeal that she is going through at this moment.The old adage is that faith can move mountains,well with the strength,courage & willpower that your Mom has and with her family and friends fighting with her in her corner she will climb and conquer this mountain in front of her. Love to yourself & Sage,Lisa,Paul,George,Lauren. Love from Janet,Bill,Debbie,Jayne,& Families.
Comment # 5
April 29, 2007
Dear Adam and Sage.
How wonderful that I have got such a lovely family and wonderful friends. I know this is to buck us all up but it has made me cry because it makes me feel very humble and very much loved.I am looking forward to seeing you soon.
Lots and lots of love.
Mom xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Comment # 6
April 29, 2007
Adam where are your wedding photos? I cannot find them on this new site.
Love Mom xxx
Comment # 7
April 30, 2007
Mom
I will have them up on the Flickr account soon, they were on the old site but I took them down when I started this one, give me a day or two!
Love
Adam (& Sage)
xoxoxoxoxoxo
Comment # 8
May 02, 2007
Hi adam,Your mom gave me this webb site and said to have my hankie ready before opening it.How right she was,since I’m at work I’ve had to say it’s hay fever that’s making my eyes run!!!!
Adam the words you wrote are what we’ve all been thinking and because we’re such close friends have all had those same thoughts.
Your mom is a survivor,and will fight what ever comes her way.The love we have for all of you is only matched by the same love and support your mom and dad have always given all of us.
Now that you have my e-mail you can keep in touch.
Lots of love
Pam,Ron,Amanda,Sarah,and Sarah’s husband David.
Comment # 9
May 02, 2007
Val
...I was very sorry to hear the news when Adam told me, I couldn’t believe it,‘not again!’ I thought, ‘not someone else that I know’, ‘not Val’...
...this thing, this indescriminate and randomn thing…I hate it…she’s so flippin lovely it doesn’t make sense!
...having nibbled at the tip of the iceberg of information regarding the subject, via the internet and books…and after speaking to friends who are dealing with, or more importantly HAVE DEALT with the ‘intruder’ as Adam so aptly puts it…
...I’ve learnt that it doesn’t dictate to you how things will be from now on…far from it…
...with knowledge and belief, YOU dictate how things will be…
...for me, knowing people who are effected only serves to positively underline just how many…how so, so, many people kick the flamin’ thing into touch!
...knowledge is power!
...you’re cleverer (is that a real word?), you’re smarter, sharper, more able to learn, more able to adapt, and a damn site more up for the fight!!!
this is how it is…
...Round 1, in ‘LOVED BY EVERYONE CORNER’, wearing red, white and blue…ITS VAAAAAL WIGGALLLLLLL…crowd goes wild…
...and in Weak, Pathetic and Horrible Corner its the unwanted intruder…BOOOOOO, BOO, BOO, HISS, SSSS…crowd throwing cups and stuff!
...Ding, Ding…Round 1!
“OH MY GOD…IT’S A KNOCKOUT! ...ONLY SECONDS AFTER THE BELL…VAL WIGGALL IS DANCING ROUND THE RING WITH HER ARMS IN THE AIR…HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND THE WHOLE CROWD ARE ERUPTING, SIMPLY GOING BERSERK WITH JOY FOR HER”...“AMAZING, SHE’S AMAZING”...
...“SHE’S A CHAMP!”
...Val, you’re in charge.
Luv Ya. X
RP
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Comment # 10
June 14, 2007
Hi Adam, remember me? I was the estate agent who sold you your house in Dorridge a long time ago. Mum and I go back quite a long way so I get all the news about her family.
Just wanted to say how touched I was reading your note to Mum but to reassure you too: Val and I had a really lovely evening together yesterday; we talked (and ate!) not stop between 6.30 and 9.30 and Mum looked absolutely marvellous. We had such a super evening, I came away feeling much better knowing that Mum was doing so well and as always, up for a challenge. I know the look you refer to and boy oh boy, does she mean business.
Many congratulations on your recent marriage Adam. Mum tells me how happy you and Sage are so long may that continue.
With kind regards. Jackie
Comment # 11
June 15, 2007
Hi Jackie,
No surprises that Mom managed to talk (and eat) for three hours, sounds like old times! Thanks for letting me know.
Thanks for the congratulations, Sage and I are having a great time.
Adam
Comment # 12
May 02, 2008
Adam,
I will have your mother and you in my prayers; I talk to God every night and perhaps he will listen on this on.
The best your mother and you.
martin
Comment # 13
May 02, 2008
Thanks Martin
That means a lot to both me and my Mom.
Comment # 14
May 07, 2008
Hi Adam,
Mark from the ExpressionEngine forums here. I am sending all my best thoughts and wishes for all of you in this time. I am sure with all the obvious love and well wishes that you have in your family that your Mom is going to be well looked after. I am definitely one for the belief that you can fight anything with enough will and determination and it seems as though there is a lot here.
I wish you, your mom and all your family the very best and pray for you too.
Best wishes,
Mark
Comment # 15
May 30, 2008
Hi Adam
Thinking of Val and all the family, especially Derek, Lisa and, of course you Adam. I spoke to Mum today for an update. I can’t believe she’s having to go through chemo again but I hope and pray that all goes well for her on Tuesday. She’s such a brave soldier; full of fighting spirit so let’s all help her over this new hurdle. Keep fighting Val - you’re a survivor and we’re all with you!!
Kind regards. Jackie
Comment # 1
The Wife
February 26, 2007
Adam, So nice to see you sending well wishes to your mom via the internet. Valerie, I’m thinking of you daily, wanting to be a part of your journey, where ever it takes us.
My family asks about you often and the power of positive thought is certainly on your side.
Much love, Sage.